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How to cut a guest list that is way too big! By: Jonathan Bille  |
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 You’re planning your wedding and the time comes to draw up the guest list. You start by listing all the members of both families that are to be invited. You then start to list out all your friends that you want to invite. You top off the list with some miscellaneous guests like lifelong neighbors, a few key people from work, etc… and low and behold, the list is way too long. Not only do you not have the money to invite all the people you would like, but the reception hall you rented won’t accommodate that many people. So what do you do?
Don’t worry, this problem isn’t unique to you, it happens to every couple, during every wedding planning. But what is the solution? How do you trim the list without hurting any feelings or excluding people you really want to have at your wedding?
It’s not easy, but with a little juggling, you can create a list you’ll be able to live with.
The fist thing to do is to start over making your list. This time start with family members who absolutely must be invited, Moms, Dads, Brothers, Sisters, and Grandparents. At that point, stop and reassess. How many slots do you have left?
Next, add the friends to the list that absolutely must be invited. Again, stop and reassess. How many slots do you have left?
Let’s say you still have some room left on your guest list. Now start to add members of your extended family, and some of the miscellaneous guests you would really like to have at the wedding.
Now let’s say that there’s no more room on the guest list but there are still some people you would like to invite. The thing to do is to send out the first batch of invitation with a respond by date that is well before the wedding.
Wait till you get the responses and count up how many that won’t be attending the wedding. Now get out your list of those you’d still like to invite. As you receive notification from those who can’t attend, send out another invitation to someone on your secondary list.
Now in some cases, this won’t be enough to dent the secondary list, and you’ll be feeling like there are a lot of people who will feel hurt that they didn’t get invited. In that case, there is a simple solution.
If you still have a large number of people who you just can’t get on the guest list, consider having an additional wedding celebration that isn’t a formal event, but which includes everyone that just couldn’t be squeezed onto the guest list.
Perhaps a week before the wedding, have a informal party at your home or the home of a friend where you can get together with everyone. Don’t make it a gift giving event but rather a celebration of the wedding so that you get to spend time with all those people that just can’t be added to your wedding guest list.
The point is not to spend a lot of money or to make people feel obligated; it’s a chance to celebrate your wedding with those who just can’t be added to your wedding guest list.
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